“I’m a failure.”

By Jeffrey Lazarus, MD, FAAP

“I’m a failure because I’m still wetting the bed. I’ve taken the medicine, and I’ve tried the bedwetting alarm, and nothing helps. Therefore, I’m a failure, and I’ll probably never be dry at night.”

As a parent, when our child tells us this, it’s just heart-breaking. We love our children so much, and want to help them.

Many parents might immediately jump to reassure their child and say something like, “No. You’re not a failure! Remember, your doctor (or primary care clinician) said that it’s a common problem and you’ll outgrow it, eventually. It just hasn’t happened, yet.” And that is what loving parents do because we want to help our kids, and comfort them, and take away their pain.

I believe that when a child says something like this, we need to meet them where they are and provide empathy for them. So, saying something like, “Yeah. I know you’re not dry, yet, and I imagine you might be feeling frustrated, and worried, and maybe even a bit discouraged about this. And I feel sad about it. On the other hand, I feel hopeful. You clearly want to be dry, and I just haven’t known what else we can do to help you.”

In addition, it’s not the child’s fault! The two most commonly used treatments for this problem, the bedwetting alarm and medication, are really not that effective. This statement is supported by data and it is not just my opinion. It is also the opinion of many pediatric urology specialists.

So, when children use these two treatments, and they don’t work, they feel sadder, more embarrassed, and even more discouraged and hopeless. This then further decreases their self-esteem and self-confidence, and can send them into a tailspin. They may even believe the self-fulfilling prophecy, “I’ve always failed at this, and now I will continue to fail at it.”

Well, Parents, I actually have some good news for you! And for your child!

Keeping the Bed Dry® is an online video streamed medically proven treatment for bedwetting.* It teaches kids how to use their brains to talk with their bodies so that they can become dry at night. It doesn’t involve any medication or alarms. And it works pretty quickly.

Because there are no medications and no intrusive alarms, kids become dry on their own. It is therefore empowering and makes them feel more self-confident and have higher self-esteem.

Parents, you now tell you can tell your child, “I actually have some good news for you! I just learned about a medically proven program, called Keeping the Bed Dry®. It teaches you to teach your brain to talk with your body so that you can be dry at night.”

Get started today!

*Bayne, Aaron, MD. Pediatric Urologist and Associate Professor of Urology, Oregon Health and Science University Medical School, is the author of “Self-guided Medical Hypnosis Program as First-Line Therapy Improves Dryness in Children with Monosymptomatic Nocturnal Enuresis in a Prospective Single-Center Study.”